’I want Connor to tie me up with a rope dart and spank me with the blunt side of his tomahawk. My safe word would be something in his language that he picked for me. The next day we’d do it again, only this time I’m tying him up and spanking him. And his safe word would be something in my language. I’d make sure to pick something that’s really hard to pronounce, because I’m evil just like that.’